tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7915331161078019972.post3533872725332500214..comments2023-10-26T11:40:33.304-04:00Comments on Going forward: Feeling lost, trapped.JFhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00206384782342713984noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7915331161078019972.post-42364921175456407812013-08-26T12:15:40.125-04:002013-08-26T12:15:40.125-04:00What TwoLives said! Exactly. None of those thing...What TwoLives said! Exactly. None of those things will matter when you find someone that likes you for you. *hugs you tight* You're sweet, funny, intelligent and a genuinely good guy. Your lack of sexual experience is not what defines you.<br />-ShellShell https://www.blogger.com/profile/10744189703116390789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7915331161078019972.post-89475101346417865262013-08-26T08:29:11.904-04:002013-08-26T08:29:11.904-04:00Hi JF,
I am sorry you are feeling down about this...Hi JF,<br /><br />I am sorry you are feeling down about this. While I can understand, I think you are putting enormous pressure on yourself. TwoLives' comments were spot on from my POV. Please don't lose faith. You are doing everything that is right for you. Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15705603797740188813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7915331161078019972.post-14749509680603421982013-08-25T19:44:49.218-04:002013-08-25T19:44:49.218-04:00We all had to start somewhere and learn the sexual...We all had to start somewhere and learn the sexual techniques. I'm sure many of us got a glimpse of what to do and how to do thru gay porn, altho that also does create extra high expectations. <br /><br />You should not feel like you are lesser because you want that emotional connection as well the physical one. There are others like you -- think of it as learning and exploring together. And if you happen to connect with someone more experienced, that's great too -- he can be your mentor. You should approach things at the pace you are comfortable with. The guys who just want sex are not the kind of guys you want anyway, so why lament their loss?fan of caseynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7915331161078019972.post-18916551839148744462013-08-25T16:23:55.322-04:002013-08-25T16:23:55.322-04:00You want to connect with a guy who genuinely likes...You want to connect with a guy who genuinely likes you, right? And you don't want to have meaningless quickie sex with someone who isn't really interested in you, right?<br /><br />If so, then the issues of your sexual experience and your (very reasonable) fear of STDs don't matter. Someone who genuinely likes you will be patient. Someone who genuinely likes you will give you time to get more comfortable sexually. Conversely, someone who thinks you're "lousy" or too slow to jump into bed is not someone who is genuinely interested in you. Why worry about them? Being rejected is a good thing if the guy who rejects you is a bad match. A good match will respect you for who are. Anyone who doesn't respect you, isn't worth worrying about. Stop beating yourself up. Be proud of who you are! The best guys will respect and desire you for being the terrific, kind, go-slow person you are.TwoLiveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05801244463128618355noreply@blogger.com