I've been on a small rollercoaster of emotions the recent days.
Last Thursday I had decided to creat an account on a dating site that I had seen had a few guys from my region. Once logged in, I realized that on average, they had not logged in for about 2 years!! That was a bummer. So I decided to create an account on another site. Then again, there is nobody from my region. Bigger bummer.
On Friday night, I was a bit depressed about it even if I recognized that I was being impatient.
On Saturday morning, I remembered that there was a guy who works in the local mall who I think is cute and is probably gay (I know, stereotypes.... but I have no gaydar at all!!) So with a lot of fear and the support from some friends on the gay chat room, I decided to go see the guy and try something.
I went to the mall and arrived in front of his boutique (a clothes' boutique). I saw he was there, but there were also at least 3 other "salesman/woman" and a few customers so I was really intimidated. I think I panicked and I decided to go back in my car to breath. I stayed there for 30 minutes before entering in the mall again. There were less customers so eventually I decided to enter.
Of course, there was a flaw in my plan, as it is not the guy I wanted to see that approached me to help me with my shopping, but another one!! But, as a consolation, that new guy was really hot! I was trying to get glimpses at the guy I went there to see, but he doesn't really cared about me (I thought maybe he could have recognized me but maybe not... he didn't show interest in me at all). So I started looking at different pieces of clothes for the upper body. The hot guy was very nice with me and when I noticed his butt, I started to forget the other guy LOL.
It turns out that I think that the hot guy was trying to flirt with me.... but I'm not 100% sure. He was touching me a bit more than the usual salesman. But, what rang the alarm in my head was when he was trying to convince me to buy a winter jacket. I said no and to try to convince me a last time, he said "Maybe if I do the pretty eyes to you??" And he did the pretty eyes!!! After that he laughed to show that he was joking, but still... I've asked a lot of people if there is a chance that he's straight if he did that and most would be shocked if he turns out to be straight.
In the end, I purchased 5 items and it cost me quite a bit!!! But, after I had paid, he gave me the 2 bags of clothes and asked my name! (That has never happened to me before!! There must really be something going on with that guy!!) So I gave him my name and he return he told me his. He thanked me for my time shopping and I thanked him for helping me. Then, I left. I guess I should have tried to push things but I was just so surprised by everything....
Again, the fact that he asked my name, for those I asked, it seems like a big signs that he's interested in me. I seriously don't know because I have no idea how the seduction signs work!!
So yesterday night I was quite happy!!! I went shopping for a guy, but in the end, I picked another guy ( he picked me actually) and bought some clothes. I had a smile on my face all night long yesterday.
Since I don't want him to forget me, I know I have to make a move soon. I decided to go back to the mall today. Sadly, my plan was not good at all, so I didn't meet him, even if I saw he was there. I try not to be so hard on myself about it. I think I'm getting better now.
My shopping is not over :) I'll try to go back this week. I really don't know what his schedule is and I want to see him when there is not a lot of people around. I'll go on y lunchtimes, hoping that he's there and that nobody shops clothes on lunchtime! Did I mention that apart from being very cute, he's also very sweet and nice and adorable??
So, what do you guys think?? What are the odds that he's interested in me??
(to be continued when something happens!!)
Well, he sounded pretty interested! Even if he was just being flirtatious with you, it was a good thing for you to experience. I think it was very brave of you to try for a face-to-face meeting rather than just online.
ReplyDeleteI understand how it is to feel flustered when the unexpected occurs. After a hair cut, my stylist (who I told was gay... it pays to advertise!) offered me a blowjob ... I practically ran out the door. But I reconsidered and returned a few hours later. We had a very hot session in the back of his deserted salon!
As to the online hookup sites, in my town the most used one is squirt.org (which I don't care for) and the second is pof.com (which I've had lots of luck on.) I really like bear411.com but very few guys are on it locally. It is based out of Montreal so there are a lot of PQ guys listed...
Funny story! So now do you go more regularly for a haircut?
DeleteYes, I've been back twice and it's been even hotter than the first time. He's the owner of a one-stylist salon so I phone ahead to be sure that there are no other customers expected.
DeleteThat first time, we did it STANDING UP in the storage room among the mops and cleaning supplies. But I would much preferred to be lying down, so on the other times, I brought a blanket and pillows so we could be comfortable and horizontal... He gives the best blowjobs ever!!
Sounds like he was interested to me and if I am reading this you were interested in dating sites rather than hookup sites, is that right? I am sure there are plenty of the latter.
ReplyDeleteI think your experience at the mall was pretty cool and I think you should try again and see if you can talk to him some more. If it seems cool and he still seems interested and isn't mentioning a girlfriend or anything, maybe say something like, you wouldn't want to get coffee some time or something?
Yes Ivan, it was dating sites. I definitely intend on going back to see him. The sooner the better :) I don't want him to forget me!
DeleteHe was either flirting with you because he's interested, or, because he was trying to sell you more clothes. To learn which it is, you'll need to be more bold when you return. You might try asking him if any of his co-workers are into guys. Tell him you were there before and one guy seemed flirty but you weren't sure. His reaction will tell you all you need to know! Good luck. We're looking forward to your update.
ReplyDeleteTo know the truth I'll have to go back, that's for sure. Im not sure I'll try your method, but I definitely have some ideas to find out if he's interested in me or not :)
DeleteOne important fact is that he asked my name after I had bought and paid the clothes, so his job was done to sell me stuff. I wonder if he wnated me to give him my number? :)
He was definitely flirting. I agree with TwoLives - you'll have to talk to him more to see if he was flirting because he's interested or flirting to make a sale. I like your follow-up plan. Good luck this week!
ReplyDeleteThanks Ann Marie!!!
DeleteHey JF! I loved reading this, you're really doing well and trying to get out and find someone. I think he was probably interested, hon. You know, what you should do is just call the store and see if he's working before you actually get in your car and take the time to go over. You can ask to speak with him and can even ask him to get coffee or something sometime and then you don't have to buy more clothes and you know it's a date! Anyways, just a thought. I hope it works out with this guy, but if not it will with the right one.
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Hi Shell, thanks for the idea, I had not thought about it... but I want to see him and see his reaction when I make a move on him :)) I do have some ideas that don't need me to spend money, so I can still manage to go there in person :)
DeleteHi JF. I agree with Shell about calling the store. Tell them you liked this salesperson when you bought items recently and want to deal with him again. Hopefully you remember his name. :) If that part works, then go to the store and wait until he is not with a customer and say 'Hi', and ask him does he remember you, and would he like to meet at some point for coffee?
ReplyDeleteI realize all this is easy for me to say, but you seem willing to take these chances so I hope what I am suggesting isn't too upsetting to you. I wish you so much luck with this. This guy sounds like he could have a lot of potential. And please let us know what happens.
Btw, when you mentioned looking at his butt, I was laughing so hard. Thanks for that!
Susan, of course I remember his name!!! I actually want to know if he remembers mine, that would be a good sign!!
DeleteYes, you are right that it's easier said than done. It's a big stress for me, but a guy has to do what he has to do :)
Haha, I learn more about myself and I realize that it's not the first time that it's a guy 's butt that makes me notice in him .... There's some kind of pattern :) I'm very happy to have made you laugh!
Beware of flirting with guys in a customer service position when they're on the job. A lot of times, they do see it as merely a part of their job and a way to increase sales (especially if they have a quota or get a commission), get a better tip, etc.
ReplyDeleteI understand! I do think that there are chances he's not interested at all.
DeleteBut to know the truth I'll have to take some risks. However, if it doesn't work out, I think I'll still be good; I'm not in love with him, I see him as my first potential love interest!