Hey everyone!!
I've been delaying this post a bit, waiting to see if things would unfold differently than what I thought.
To explain what happened concernaing the waiter, I'll begin by saying that in the end my "my allies" couldn't help me, so I had to work things up by myself.
To recall the events, here is a transcript of a discussion I had last saturday in the chat room. Sorry for the bad typing!!
| ME | I just called |
| HIM | a n d? |
| HIM | get a name? |
| ME | not even LOL |
| ME | hear this |
| ME | So I called a first time like 7 minutes ago |
| ME | I say to the girl who answer: can i talk to a blond waiter I know he worked last saturday do you know if he,s working now |
| ME | she says: |
| ME | Oh I don,t know I'm at a calling center |
| ME | I cannot transfer you because they,re business hours are closed |
| ME | but i can let them a message |
| HIM | ok |
| ME | I hesitated and I said no I'll call back |
| ME | So I ended the call |
| ME | I was kinda mad cause 10 minutes before it was during the business hours.... |
| ME | I thought fast |
| ME | and decided to call back |
| ME | So I called again |
| HIM | get a different girl? |
| ME | no the same girl |
| ME | but I told her that i wanted to left a message in the end |
| ME | So I give my name (full name!!) |
| ME | and my cell number |
| ME | she asks if there is another number just in case |
| ME | so I give my house number as well!!! |
| HIM | lol jf |
| HIM | getting brave!!!!! |
| ME | She asks if it was about a question... |
| ME | i said no |
| HIM | GOOD MAN |
| ME | I want to talk to the blond waiter |
| ME | I dont know what she thought LOL |
| ME | So she's supposed to land them the message..... |
| ME | now I must wait |
| ME | but i dont even know if he works tonight, but chances are high |
| ME | i asked her if she knew the people working there and she said no |
| HIM | so what will you say when he calls you |
| ME | just a calling center |
| ME | not that brave... I spent 15 minutes staing at my phone before aclling |
| when he calls I'll make sure its the right guy | |
| ME | Ill try not to baffle too much |
| HIM | and then say |
| HIM | saw you last week |
| HIM | you are really cute |
| HIM | like to gat a coffee somethign |
| ME | well first I'mm gonna ask him if he remembers me |
| HIM | sometime |
| ME | then when he will, I'll ask him if he'd like to have a drink with me sometime |
| HIM | ths does sound GOOD jf |
| HIM | very good infact |
| ME | I wonder how the info will be transferred to him and if people will make fun of him though... a guy who asks for him.... |
| HIM | that will tell you somethign also |
| ME | what? |
| HIM | if he calles after that - after people joking |
| HIM | it will say that he actually MIGHT be gay and willing to meet somoene |
| ME | yes of course |
| HIM | and that would be a GOOD thing |
| ME | yes |
| ME | the worst thing is that I would never hear from him again |
| ME | which would not be so bad after all |
| HIM | well, that would also be a message |
| ME | well now I must wait |
| ME | different kind of nervousness |
| HIM | be certain to let us KNOW |
| ME | where my cellphone? need to find it! |
| HIM | L O L |
| ME | I just hope my memory is good and that he,s really blond!!! |
| HIM | ha ha ha |
| HIM | fingers crossed |
| ME | kinda sad about the wole call center thing tho.... |
| ME | not very romantic |
| HIM | yes - but it DOES show that you are determined |
| ME | it would have been much less complicated if I had realized last saturday that I needed to talk to him THEN |
| HIM | I bet you will never miss another opportunity like that again!!!!! |
| ME | I hope I can learn from that! |
So yeah, I did call.... I stared at my phone a long time before calling, but when I did it, I was decided and confident, which was a good thing. However, I couldn't talk to him directly, which was a bummer. I then had to wait!! But, a few minutes after that chat, I was chatting with Vickie on facebook. I had not told her yet that I had called the waiter and she told me that he was brown haired !!!!
Here's my reaction:
Me: Fuck!
Me: Fuck Fuck!!!!!
Vickie: Don't worry you'll just have to do the same dirty dreams with a brown haired guy instead of a blond haired guy
Me: No!! I called and let a message to the blond waiter.... Fuck.....
Vickie: LOL!!!! Oh no!!!!!!
Me: You really sure he has brown hair?
Vickie: sure at 98%
Me: Fuckkkkk!!! I'm done... he'll never call me back now
Vickie: Yeah he porbably won't feel concerned about the call.
Me: I piss me off... I'm so stupid
Vickie: Ohhh I laugh so much I'm crying its crazy!!!
Me; LOL you piss me off... but at least I laugh too.
Vickie: Ahhh you've made my day!!!
Me: I knew I was not good noticing people's hair color... but this is worst than I could have imagined.
Vickie: You really are not talented at this!!
Me: Fuck... LOL
That's how I screwed my chance with the waiter... as you can imagine, 7 days later, he has not called back!! I'm pissed off at myself, but I don't take it too bad. I can even laugh about it, which is a good sign.
What I have learned from this is to take the opportunity when it arises (not wait later to come back or call back) and also to really observe the physical caracteristics of a guy I want to date cause it can become really handy !!
It will be hard for me to take the opportunity when it arises, because I have simply never done that. But at least now know what to work on!!! And I have some friends who are willing to help me :)
Are you sure there is nothing more you can do about this? Can you call the place again and try to leave a message for the brown-haired guy?
ReplyDeleteAhaha, you really were focused on his...walk.
ReplyDeleteI'm with Susan, if you really are into this guy it's not necessarily the end. Restaurants are crazy places - that message could have gotten lost in the shuffle or he could think it's a message from a customer with a complaint, etc. Or he could think the message isn't for him because he's brunette (ha ha).
Could you go back to the restaurant and accidentally run into him? Or maybe find somebody who was working with him that night and get some info? If that message comes up just say, "Blonde? No I totally said brown hair!" (You can tell the truth later.)
Don't you think face to face is a better approach? Why don't you just go back the restaurant and approach this guy? Maybe I'm missing something here.
ReplyDeleteHe gets a phone message from some guy -- for what reason is a mystery. Is it reasonable to expect him to call you?
It is not a restaurant, it is a reception room.... where you have to have a party organized to go there. I just feel like a total stalker now. Going again after him seems too much for me. What I may have ofrgotten to mention is that when I left the message, I said the blond waiter working last saturday. When he got the message, surely he knew it was me cause I really doubt someone else made eye contact and smiles with him. So for me, he has received the message and is not interested in me. I may be wrong but for now this is how I feel.
ReplyDeleteGot it. Nothing wrong with letting a situation drop.
DeleteDon't feel stalkery. Here's why:
- Your smile/eye contact was nice. Waiters/waitresses get flirted with all the time. I used to work at a family restaurant (I swear it was a family restaurant) with the unfortunate name of Woody's. If I didn't get some variation of the "Are you the cause or the cure?" joke during a shift I was slipping. I've been out with female friends who've been equally flirtatious with male waiters. So I don't think your behavior was too much (and he might not have even noticed).
- As a waitress, I would never have assumed a phone call from a customer had a romantic intent. I'd probably think, "Oh great - he lost something and now wants me to check the booth..and the bathroom..and the parking lot".
You were interested in a guy and you followed up. And you know your friends have your back. I think you did good.
Yes, exactly! What Ann Marie said!
Delete-Shell
Ok, here is what I think could have transpired. I believe it's possible the man didn't even get the message. The person taking the call could have handed it to some unknown blonde guy who thought wtf and threw it away OR he could have received it and thought it was for someone else bc he is in fact brunette.
ReplyDelete-Shell
Catching eyes and a smile from a cute guy is definitely a thrill. I can understand why you want to pursue this guy and why you wanted to pursue the guy at the clothing store. But with that said, I think you've put too much effort into chasing these questionable leads. You don't know if they're gay. You don't know if they're single. And even they are, you don't know if you have anything in common. A more constructive approach would be to try some on-line dating sites. That way you'd be fishing in small pond where the guys want to be caught, instead of fishing in an unpredictable ocean where anything can happen.
ReplyDeleteSpeaking of fishing...the dating site Plenty of Fish is very popular in other parts of Canada. Maybe you should give that a try?
TwoLives, thanks for your comment.
DeleteYou make me realize that there are some of my thoughts that I have not yet synthetized into a post. My answer to your comment will be in my next blog post.