Monday, January 28, 2013

The week of "abstinence"

After the 3rd date which happened 2 Sunday's ago, began the week of abstinence!!  After what had happened on the 3rd date, I really needed to take a few steps back. 

All in all, it was not so much abstinence cause even if we didn't see each other in person, we still chatted on Skype every night!!  Somehow I realized that my own behavior had changed.  And also the way we were interacting with each other was really good.  I felt more at ease with him.  Not that I was not myself with him before that, but I really felt less pressure to find love with him and I felt more free. 

I also caught myself having naughty thoughts about him.  I felt like I wanted to be closer to him, but I was cautious trying not to mix physical attraction to emotional attraction.

After a few days, I realized that maybe, if we (I) gave it a chance, it could work.  I felt that with the more relaxed attitude I had, without the pressure of trying to know if it would work or not, we could get to know each other more and maybe in the long run it could work.

I didn't tell him right away, cause I wanted to complete our "abstinence week" before telling him.  So I planned on telling him the news of how I now felt during the upcoming date which was last Friday night.



14 comments:

  1. Such. A. Tease!!

    I'm glad you're relaxing and enjoying dating. You deserve it.

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  2. Tease!!! And? Well? WHAT HAPPENED?
    -Shell

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  3. Girls, I can't just write everything in one single post..... It would be wayyyyyyyyyy tooooooooooo looooooooonnnnnggggggggg. :)

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    1. Lies! You can! Write the next post! Now! Get to it, JF! Lol
      -Shell

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    2. What a pathetic excuse!! We've got you figured out, JF. Now get to writing!! :)

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    3. I'm amused. One of the verification words for my last comment was "sasyman." It's missing an s, but yeah. ;)

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    4. What? You know you want to hear too, Colorful! JF is a big 'ol tease!

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    5. I'm more than a little curious. But I can wait. ;)

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    6. One of the things you must understand is that in order to give you updates, I need to live them. I won't live them by blogging all the time :-P. I need to spend time on the field haha

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  4. Are you looking to get married from your first date or date a couple of guys and have fun and enjoy the experience and fun times. I"m not sure of your situation, but it seems as if you're really serious about finding mister right right now......perhaps you should go out and have fun without thinking about china patterns. just my opinion thought. good luck!

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    1. Interesting... that will inspire my next post!

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  5. JF - We all, already gave you 'permission' to make your posts as long as necessary. To not tell us everything is cruel and unusual punishment! Get writing! :)

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  6. Oh Susan!!! but the longer the post, the most time is consumed in my now busy schedule LOL

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