Yo, it's not cool to use the word fag, even less to use it to describe something weak or cheap. Have a good day!
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
Homophobic words getting unnoticed
Last Sunday I was at my parents' house before dinner. My parents, my sister and her boyfriend as well as my brother were there.
During one of the discussions, my brother talks about an object that is weak, made cheap (I don't remember the object in question). He finished by saying that the object in question is made fag (fif in french). I look at him, not knowing how to react. Then my sister replies: "Ah those fag things." And it ends like that. At this point I know that they don't want to hurt me or anything, but I don't know how to react. It's the first time since I came out that a situation like that happens. I don't want to do a scene, so I decide to delay my reaction. I think about it a bit during the dinner, but it doesn't really affect me. I just wonder what's going through everyone else's mind.
So on Tuesday, I sent a quick message to them on Facebook, saying:
Today, my sister replies: "??"
So I detail how it happened.
Tonight, my brother calls me. He says he wanted to call me yesterday but forgot. He says he doesn't remember. I recall the events again, but he says he doesn't remember. He's clearly uncomfortable and he says he didn't mean to hurt me. I tell him that I'm not mad or anything, but I just wanted them to know to pay attention to the words they use, because it's not OK to say what they have said.
I have yet to hear again from my sister.
All I want to say (and all of you already know it I'm sure), is that even the well-intended can do something homophobic and the worst part of it is that they don't even realize it. That's to prove how much homophobia is deeply instilled in our society... Just a sad fact....