Wednesday, January 16, 2013

How my first date went!

I'm not kidding!!   I had a date.  Yesterday night!!

You probably think you missed a post or something.  Well yeah... it's a post that I have not written yet!!  I just want to write about my date now and get to the details of the "how come??" later!!

My date was at 18:30 in a restaurant in his own city, which is about 30 minutes from where I live.  I was feeling well all day long and as the date approached, I did not get nervous, which was surprising.  My date (I'll call him Flyman) had wanted to invite me at his apartment.  I thought that was way too fast for a first date so I offered him to go at a restaurant instead.  My initial plan was that we would go to the restaurant, than take a walk and that by around 21:00, I would leave because I still had to work the next morning.  He had talked about going to see a movie in his apartment, but I didn't want to do that on a first date.

I arrived at the restaurant on time and Flyman was waiting for me outside the restaurant, as planned.  The dinner went well, I was feeling comfortable.  We talked about various things, from random things to coming out.  He's younger than me and he is totally out to all people he knows.  For him it happened much quicker than me.  He told his parents first, then one of his friend who wrote it on facebook.  And that was it!!

After that, we decided to take a walk, but his coat was not warm enoough for that.  So we went to his apartment and he showed it to me.  He put his warmer coat and we took our walk.  We continued talking about various things.... and also about sex!!

He ended up knowing that I had never made love or kissed a man.  He was very surprised, but he was ok with it.  He asked if I was top or bottom!  That made me laugh a lot!!  I gave him my answer and he gave me his (you certainly are not thinking I'm going to give you the answer now!?  Are you!?).

When the walk ended, it was about 21:00.  Flyman invited me to go watch a movie inside and I decided to go. (Only fools don't change their mind!)  In his living room, there is only a 1-place sofa...  We were 2, right!?  So we ended up watching the movie laying over a thick blanket, side by side, on the floor.  We were really comfortable (at least I was!).  We watched a romantic comedy, I don't remember the name, but it is with Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman.  We randomly started talking at various points during the movie, asking questions to the other.  I guess if someone had entered in the apartment he would have thought we were cute LOL!! 

At the beginning of the movie, he caressed my arm a bit and held my hand for like 2 seconds, while saying he knew I was not comfortable with being cuddly with a guy and that he would respect that.  So he let my hand go and he didn't do it again.  Sometimes during the movie he was joking that everyone in the movie was cuddling but us!  It was cute and I was still feeling comfortable about not being cuddly.

To be frank, I really think it is early to cuddle on a first date, especially for a guy like me who has never done it.

I could feel that he wanted to be more cuddly with me.  Sometimes I was side-seeing that he was watching me.  But I didn't look at him back cause I was really too shy to do it!!

At one point during the movie I had a really embarassing question that came to my mind and I started laughing.  He wanted to know why but I couldn't tell him, I was way too embarassed!  But he insisted so I ended up asking my question, to which he calmly answered.... (I won't reveal what was the question !!)

After the movie ended, it was already 23:00, so I had to go.  We didn't kiss goodbye, but we hugged each other and both said that we had a nice evening.  We even started talking about dating again during the next weekend.

There's much more to say about how I got that date, what I feel about Flyman, what will happen next, but that is enough for now!  I'll try to update soon!!







21 comments:

  1. That sounds like a fucking awesome first date!! You just took a huge step, and apparently weren't even sweating it. You're such a stud!!

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  2. I'm glad you dated someone. I think you're right when you write that you want to take your time. It's your first date and I guess you want to make the most of every single thing and feeling you discover. But sometimes letting yourself go is not bad either.
    "Top or bottom?" God, I hate that question! That's so much more than that, even though I prefer the English words to the French "actif/passif". I don't know if you use this word in Quebec, but for a guy who's both top and bottom, we say he's "autoreverse". So poetic!

    Colia

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    1. I definitilely hate the active /passive wording... this one and the top/bottom (in English) are both in use. Flyman actually used the top/bottom in English to ask me.

      Autoreverse!?!?!? that sounds so.... mechanical...

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  3. Excellent! Very sweet!! Had I been the other guy, I would have been trying to get into your pants the whole time so the other guy must have showed great self-restraint and really respected your wishes.

    I LOVE physical contact with a man of any kind, a brush of the arm, putting a hand on a thigh etc. I don't think cuddling would have been going too far....

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    1. I'm not surprised LOL!!!! Yeah he respects me I think!!

      I would love physical contact too (check my post called What kind of lover I am). But, yes I would do it as a lover or almost lover... we're not there yet!

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  4. Big, exciting news!!!! Can't wait to read more!

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  5. Those first dates are always something to remember!

    More, more, more! What a tease you are! Give us parts 2 and 3 and 4 and....! LOL

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    1. A tease!?!?! Me !?!?
      hahaha

      Well, I don't want my posts to be tooooo loooonnnngggggg!!! (Does that remind you of someone?!?)

      Parts 2, 3 and 4 will come in time :P (that reminds me of another bastard!!)

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    2. Touche!

      Well, at least you're "going forward" with your dating as well as keeping us posted on how it's going! Makes the posts as looooooonnnnnngggggg as they need to be! LOL

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  6. OMG, JF, this is sooooo fantastique! And you're correct where is the missing post that tells us how you met this guy! You know we live for the details. And Matty is right. Please feel free to make these posts as long as you want! :) So happy for you.

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    1. Susan, the missing post will be written some day! I never let any detail slip away ;)

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  7. Dating was one of my favorite things about being single

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  8. How would you know if you're a top or bottom if you've never had sex with a guy? I never could understand this question.

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    1. For me, it wasn't that difficult. It was pretty plain to me that I was a bottom, just as plain as it was to me that I was gay. As I pictured myself involved with another guy, it just became pretty clear what role appealed to me in my fantasy. And a bit of experimentation with fingers and various objects affirmed what I already felt I liked.

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    2. I'm in the same boat as JF. I once had an impromptu meeting with a valet that came on super strong toe and we ended up going into the men's room where he fingered my ass with great skill and caress. It was my first gay act and I was so nervous. I really liked it. So did he. So I guess this makes me a bottom? Let me know please!

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    3. Anon @ 10:42: I'm not really into telling other people what they are, especially based on as little information as the retelling of a single experience they had. What I do know is that you enjoyed having your ass fingered. I'd certainly say that's worth exploring more and seeing where it leads you. Figure out what it is that turns you on (and again, this is where fantasies can be almost as helpful as actual experiences) and then determine what labels might best apply to you based on that. ;)

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    4. I am no expert, obviously, but to me the question is more: Why do some guys limit or label themselves to be only top or only bottom???

      I guess I have just given a big hint on what my answer to Flyman was!!

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    5. JF: Because some of us truly do have a preference -- in some cases, a very strong one at that -- for one over the other. In the cases where that's true, it makes sense to me to acknowledge it.

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  9. Sweet! Dating is fun, I can't wait to hear more!
    -Shell

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