Tuesday, February 5, 2013


One of the things that helps me go "slow" sex-wise is my fear of STD's.

I just can't imagine having a risky behaviour like some people I hear stories from.  I have a black fear of getting sick and have the rest of my life ruined because of STD's.  Safe sex is really important to me and I have to admit that I have always feared that dating would have me face that issue.  I fear that if I want to play safe, some guys could get uninterested in me.  But, it is not a risk I am willing to take.

Flyman has been tested a few weeks ago.  His results are negative, but he has not received his HIV results yet.  He has offered me a few blowjobs, but I have always turned the offer down.  I'm actually afraid that since he has really sensible gums, there could be some bleeding in there and that I could get infected if ever he has HIV. (I have asked a nurse about it and am still waiting for her answer).

I'm really lucky that Flyman has never pushed me to do things I didn't want to.  I haven't told him yet how much I fear STD's, apart from that moment when I told him that whoever he has sex with next, to please protect himself because his health is worth much more than a good fuck.


  1. It wouldn`t hurt to tell him about your fear of STDs, I think. Honesty is the best policy!

    Your caution is a quality which should be respected, admired even. But he may be assuming all sorts of other reasons why you aren`t in a rush to be intimate with him. He may think, for example, that you don`t find him attractive.

  2. Currently, oral sex is considered fairly low risk behavior for transmission of HIV. (Other STI's are another issue.) In fact, as far as I know, there has never been a confirmed case of HIV being transmitted via oral sex. However, this is also because most cases of HIV transmission involved individuals who engaged in other activities that's considered riskier. (That is to say, if a person has both oral sex and anal sex with a positive person and contracts HIV, it's generally assumed the transmission occurred during anal sex.) As such, HIV educators are unwilling to say there is zero possibility of transmission via oral sex.

    I will note, however, that for you to get HIV, it needs to enter your bloodstream. And while this can happen by the virus coming into contact with your penis, it's not likely. The tissue that make it up is not permeable like parts of the intestinal tract.

    Of course, if you're that concerned about it, there's no reason you can't use a condom during oral sex. (Granted, that may be a hard sell to Flyman, but it's still an option to be considered.)

    I'm a bit surprised his HIV results aren't back yet. Don't they do rapid oral or rapid blood testing where you are? Here, my HIV results are available in twenty minutes after having my cheeks swabbed or having the blood drawn. (Granted, if that test ever came back positive, it would take a week for the results of the confirmation test they would want to run.) The test results (a strict positive/negative0 for syphilis comes back in about thirty minutes. The results for gonorrhea, chlamydia, and HPV usually take about a week, as do the more detailed numeric results (which gauge how far the infection has developed) for syphilis.

  3. What the hell are "sensible gums?" Not like sensible shoes, eh?

    1. LOL! My brain must've automatically rendered it "sensitive gums," because I didn't even notice.

    2. I suppose I meant sensitive instead of sensible. In the end, they bleed easily.